The strength of your pelvic floor muscles largely determines the strength of your orgasm, or indeed if you have an orgasm at all!  The stronger your pelvic floor muscles are, the more likely it is that you will experience orgasm, and your orgasms will be stronger and longer, and more intense. 

Do you know that a proven method to tighten the vagina without surgery, strengthen the pelvic floor and transform the sex lives of women way back in the 1950’s is now seeing a revival?  About time too!  The method is simply one of exercising the pelvic floor muscles against resistance.  Women have been encouraged to squeeze against nothing for decades. This was never the way the exercises were meant to be done.  Sadly, the morass of misinformation and ignorance about pelvic floor exercises which exists today deprives many women of the immense pleasure to be gained from having strong well-toned pelvic floor muscles.

Speaking of the results women were experiencing with resistance exercise in 1952, Dr Kegel, an American gynaecologist reported:

"Observations in [more than 3,000 women,] both mothers and women who have not given birth..., ranging in age from 16 to 74 years, have led to the conclusion that sexual feeling within the vagina is closely related to muscle tone, and can be improved through muscle education and resistive exercise."

He also reported that 78 of 123 women complaining explicitly of sexual deficits had achieved orgasm following the training.

Squeezing your pelvic floor muscles against resistance, holding, and then releasing the tension, leads to an increased circulation of blood flow to the vaginal muscular area.  This results in a much greater sensitivity to any stimulation and a tremendous decrease in the vaginal opening.   A tighter, stronger vagina creates more pleasure for both sexual partners.  Exercising in this way can make having an orgasm easier, and allow you to control the timing of your orgasm, building up the tension to more and more powerful orgasms with longer periods of pre-orgasmic intimacy and intensity.  Working your muscles against resistance can also make you much more likely to experience multiple orgasms and ejaculatory orgasms.  In addition, you will find that your orgasms are stronger and longer.

Strong pelvic floor muscles can make the difference between experiencing what feels like a total body orgasm as opposed to what could be described as a genital sneeze!  They elevate the experience of orgasm from a pleasurable physical sensation to a profound spiritual state of ecstasy, in which you may feel a significantly deeper sense of love and connection to your partner.  Try it, and see for yourself! 

It’s a very different experience altogether!  You will awaken sensitive nerve endings in your vagina you never knew you had, and your vagina will become much more sensitive to sensation and stimulation as a result.  It feels incredibly empowering to feel you have so much control in your vagina as well.  Whoever said exercise was boring!

I couldn't help overhearing a conversation between two women over the weekend who were talking about surgery for vaginal tightening.  What is all this nonsense about surgery?  

It left me wondering if perhaps women choose this option without being aware of the risks involved.  Vaginal rejuvenation surgery (ooh, isn’t that a lovely term!) involves the cutting of nerves, with a resulting loss of sensation and the formation of scar tissue inside the vagina. 

Before you even think about letting anyone loose to go cutting and slicing and stitching your vagina, ask yourself if you’re prepared to pay the price of possible permanent loss of sensation as a result.  Seems one hell of a price to me!

The advice from the Department of Health is to look into other things - such as pelvic floor exercises - that may boost or maintain vaginal tightness.  I’m in total agreement with them on that one, and an easy way to ensure success with pelvic floor exercises is to exercise against the progressive resistance of the Kegelmaster.  Squeezing against nothing will never give you the tightness you will get with the Kegelmaster.

With the Kegelmaster you will tighten your vagina AND increase sensation.  That’s something surgery won’t do for you.  Oh, and did I mention the Kegelmaster is a fraction of the cost of surgery, and no pain involved either!

Vaginal rejuvenation surgery…ugh, that really is a horrible term.  Love me, love my vagina just as it is I say!

Over the weekend I attended an amazing workshop with Lisa Pearson called the Transformation Workshop.  Lisa is the first certified trainer in the U.K. in the 'Demartini Method' which is the basis for the workshop.  The 'Demartini Method' is a cutting-edge personal transformation methodology developed by Dr John Demartini which results in a new and refreshing paradigm in thinking and feeling.

Dr John Demartini appeared in the acclaimed film ‘The Secret’ which is all about the Law of Attraction.  Dr Demartini speaks to audiences around the world over 300 days a year in over 50 countries around the world.  He has dedicated his life to the study of universal laws and in particular how they relate to health and healing.

We are very fortunate to have Dr Demartini visiting Milton Keynes on 14^th January 2008.  I’ve been to a few events with Dr Demartini, including a weekend workshop a couple of months ago, and I’m very excited about travelling to the States next month to do a weekend over there also.

For more information on Dr Demartini in Milton Keynes go to http://drdemartini.co.uk or call me on 07772 541 483, or e-mail info@drdemartini.co.uk to request a brochure.

To find out more about Lisa and how her work could help you rediscover the magic in your life visit  http://www.DofL.co.uk

Lisa also runs a website with resources and supports aimed at reducing the stress of parenting and finding more fun in being a mum (or Dad) http://www.funtobeamum.com/Site/Welcome.html
 

Now and then I hear women saying "Oh well I leak a little when I sneeze now and then, but it's not that bad".  I should imagine that every woman who ever had surgery for incontinence once said that to herself.